This was comment I received this week. I don’t particularly want to explain in what situation I was in, but needless to say it made feel quite mad and it had the “Oi” effect of how can you say that?

Yes, I’m a disabled person and I need to have certain needs accommodated to enable me to exist in a world that quite frankly writes me off from the word go. I don’t want to ask for such things to be done because I’m fully aware that they are seen as an inconvenience to others who have to put these in place.

But hang on a sec, that’s their position to sort this out. Are any other disabled people sick of the roll of the eyes when you make a request? That guilt trip for asking for help?

I go more than the required mile to fit in, work doubly hard to prove that I am capable of doing things in different parts of my life. But what annoys me the most is, could you imagine if I rolled my eyes if I was asked to do something and refused to because it inconvenienced a part of my disability. I’d receive the other type of rolled eyes, the “ha, knew they couldn’t do it!” ones.

So needless to say I’m standing on the proverbial double-edged sword. Damned if I do, damned if I do… carrying my baggage with me as I go.